Everyday Manners - Buffet Style

Eat-all-you can is becoming a norm. It's a quintessential way of getting your money's worth when you're hungry. I've heard some starving friends say "I can eat a building!"

This holds true when I see people pile up their food on their plates, just like buildings.

Honestly, I 'm not a big fan of buffets. I get overwhelmed. I get full just by seeing all the food around. I like having my food in portions.

Because of the ever growing deals that we find on group buying sites for buffet eating, everyone and anyone can possibly enjoy this. Even in these types of setting, it is important that you still keep your tact and manners. Here are a few tips :

• Check the buffet table out before filling your plate with food. This will help you decide what to have first.
• Go to the end of the line and do not cut. Be courteous and polite. Make sure that you patiently wait and consciously watch for your turn.
• When your turn comes, use the serving spoon. Do not get your servings on the same dish while someone else is. Serve yourself just ample portions. Do not hoard. Put the serving spoon back in the plate next to the dish and do not leave it inside the dish. This is courtesy to the next user. 
• Going for seconds is fine. This is the reason why you should not pile up your food during your first serving. When going for seconds, leave your used plate on your table and use a new one. 
• If you are not familiar with the food on the buffet table, it is okay to ask your hostess or the waiter what it is. 
• Don't mix different types of cuisines on your plate (i.e. Spanish, French, Indian, Italian). You want to make sure that you taste all the flavors of each cuisine accordingly. Use a fresh plate every time you do so.
• Try to finish everything on your plate and do not leave loads of food. Good manners is making sure that you only get enough, as we don't want to put to waste anything that someone else is deprived of.
• Be polite to the staff. If there is a certain dish that you want that is already empty, you can ask them for a replenishment.

So before you head out to your next eat-all-you can meal, remember that eating should be a fun experience to be shared by you and everyone else around. 

Don't forget to bring your manners, it says a lot about you ;)

Toodleloo!

Tummy Tuck or Tummy Not

Lately, losing weight has become a tremendous challenge for me. Blame it on age and my current penchant for Chicharon (thanks to my mom for bringing me 5 bags of Zubuchon from Cebu), my clothes don't hang on me the way they should.

As someone determined to shed those pounds as quick as Darna can pop up when trouble calls, I tried to fill up my to-do list for January. Two of those I have yet to accomplish - try cross fit and try plana forma, both of which are high impact workouts.

My job as a trainer and consultant calls for me to always look my best. Whenever I conduct Image Enhancement, Power Dressing and Personal Branding workshops, I tell my participants that their physical appearance (which includes the way they dress, grooming, body talk and poise) is an important factor that creates a huge impact on their job and speaks a lot about who they are.

While in the "process" of re-gaining my normal weight back, I had to find solutions that would help me camouflage those bulges.

My first mission was to work on my waistline.

image courtesy of jokeroo.com

A tummy tuck was definitely no solution.. but a tummy camouflage was. I shopped in my closet and pulled out the following styles that became my temporary DARNA:

WEAR (clockwise from top left) belted waist with low neckline one piece swimsuit, black black black tops and dresses that hangs straight without any waist definition, waist jacket, banded top, flat front pants with side zipper, spanx or shaper, wrap dresses with print, empire cut and skirts or dresses with sheering on the waist.


Clothes should always work to your benefit. Make sure that every piece fits you perfectly. After all, it was created to hide what was meant to be hidden and flaunt what needs to be shown. Wear it to your advantage.

In the meantime, let me enjoy my fruit bowl and get a head start in working those muscles!

No Accidents

I don't believe in accidents. I do believe that things happen for a reason.

The job that you have, the family that you were born into, the neighborhood you live in, the skills and talents, everything about you is there for  a purpose.

I remember a season in my life when I was working for this export company. It was a dream job that turned into a nightmare. Surely, I prayed about this job, that God would give it to me .. and He did. Every single day of working with that company, just got worse and worse. Questions like "What am I doing here?" or "Why am I wasting my time with a company that doesn't even notice my efforts?" would cross my mind every now and then.

Then I thought to myself, there should be a higher purpose of why I'm doing what I'm doing, why I'm here at such a time as this. Knowing that my life's purpose is to DEVELOP PEOPLE TOWARDS PERSONAL EXCELLENCE, I started focusing on that. I would spend a couple of hours each day on the factory and just started motivating and encouraging our workers - a smile, a thumbs up, a praise.. whatever it took, I did. Then, I started getting the fulfillment in my job that no paycheck can give.

Living and finding your purpose is so essential for your personal fulfillment - in all cylinders of your life.

It doesn't matter what your background is, what age you're at or how much money you have in the bank, there is a purpose why God created you. Do you know what your purpose is?

Here is a story of a five year old child that knew and lived her purpose, no matter what her circumstance was.
Get your tissues ready.. I'm such a cry baby.

What's In a Name

I have a very limited vocabulary. I want things done simple therefore I also say things in it's most simplest terms. I'm not a big words type of person either and I get tired when I listen to big words people when they talk. If only they have a pause button that would give me time to reach out for my dictionary and look for the meaning of what they just said, then the world would be a better place.

After reading an interesting article  25 Everyday Things You Never Knew Had Names, I was challenged to remember some of the names like "Philtrum" which is the groove located below the nose and the middle upper lip or "Petrichor" which is the smell outside after it rains. But hey.. I have a hard time pronouncing most of them, much more remember them, right? So I just decided to download the article on my iphone and have it as a reference tool in case of emergency.

Each time I conduct a training, one of my end goals is to see change. Change in a persons heart, change in a participants goal or change in the organization. It is important for me that each project I take on bears fruit, not just any fruit but fruit that remains.

So while I was trying to come up with what I can call myself professionally, my cousin introduced me to the word "METAMORPHOSIST". As animalistic as it sounds (Yes, my sister told me it sounds like a name of an insect), I love the word. I feel its one thing that totally describes me. It comes from the word Metamorphosis. Webster defines it as any complete change in appearance, character or circumstance. I just added the letters IST to make me the person that will aid in the change. So now, I call myself that.

For someone that's not a big words person, I have actually come up with one that I call my own.

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Childhood Dreams

Growing up, I was a very shy kid. I hardly made friends and always found home behind my mother's skirt. People that knew me then never thought that I would turn-around.

One day, I decided to get out of my shell, to become someone different and try new things. I realized that being shy would not take me one step closer to my dreams. 

Dreams were my fuel. They kept me going. I dreamed a lot. 

I dreamed of going to Disneyland. I dreamed that the color of my first car would be black. I dreamed of having an apartment with a panoramic view. I dreamed of  studying and living in New York. I dreamed of having friends, lots of friends. I dreamed that I would be a fashion guru. I dreamed of being a speaker. I dreamed that I would be able to cook good Paella, the way my grandma does. 

To date, each one of these dreams have come to pass. 

Looking back,  lots of tears, hard work, patience and perseverance were put into it. There were things that I had to do in order for each and every one of them to be fulfilled. 

I believe that the way I have seen my dreams come true right before my eyes, can happen to you too! 

Tune in to my next blog as I take you back on the lessons I learned, steps I took and the moments when I finally realized that I was one step closer to my dream. 

In the meantime, I leave you with a glimpse of my dreams that have now been realities :) Toodeloo